We came home to Colorado but the nightmare would not stop. We had to organize a memorial service here for our friends and Bob's co-workers. This is where my dear friends Denise and Jean shine. Between them they took on all these details as well as figuring out all our financial things and beginning the process of dealing with the gathering of life insurance etc. My brother Craig came out to Colorado as well and gave us all much invaluable advice.

The memorial service was emotionally difficult but it was affirming to see how many friends came to say good bye to Bob and give their support to us. The priests from our parish were there for the kids and myself even though the service was definitely not Catholic. They were a very comforting presence for me. All Bob's kids were there -Sara, Zurii, Jay, Justin, and Jamie.

Jay decided to stay and moved in to help me with things around the house. Even if things did not end that great with Jay, I still believe he really wanted to help us deal with everything.

Bob's co-workers were wonderful and helped us so much contributing to a fund for the kids educations which was eventually put to good use as they are both going to college now.

Jean did the service and was wonderful. She would not leave me alone for many days and I don't know how I would have survived without her. I am crying even now as I think back to the pain and sorrow of that time.